Parent's Perspective

How you can help your junior athletes succeed

It's tough, but it doesn't have to be.

Raising competitive athletes comes with its own challenges. I know, I raised four children, two of them who compete at the Division 1 collegiate level. My goal is to help kids discover their talents, honor their gifts, and to develop character and create meaning behind the things they work hard for every day.

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Meet Wendy

Avoid burnout and anxiety from the grind.

Overwhelm, anxiety, and burnout are real risks. And the greater the expectation for high performance, the greater the chances are for these issues to appear. Athletes and parents of athletes are aware of these dangers. Physical and athletic skills are just part of the skill set needed to succeed. Day after day of hard work and discipline is a big part of consistently high performance. It’s what separates plain good athletic ability from professional-level results in competition. Willpower can only take you so far. Eventually, the grind will take you down if you don’t have a strong enough sense of purpose. The more powerful the meaning you can create, the more rewarding the grind.

Create meaning behind rest and recovery.

Learn why you should grant yourself the permission to slow down and carve out the time to recharge. It may seem like you can push through things, and as athletes, we are good at that. In the short term that is absolutely possible, but if you are training for the long game, rest and recovery are what will make the journey one that you can enjoy.

Coachable athletes excel. Self-awareness creates coachable athletes.

We all have our blind spots. We all have aspects of our behavior and our mindset that is glaring to others yet invisible to ourselves. Using the Johari window model can help identify these aspects for the person involved. When they see it for themselves, people gain the self-awareness that’s crucial to any real improvement.

Focus on the journey, not the destination.

The vast majority of people who have successfully pushed beyond their limits attribute their success to being able to focus on the journey. Stranded mountain climbers left for dead recount how their complete focus was on mustering all their strength to make the next step. They describe how trying to imagine the thousands of steps between them and survival would have driven them crazy. Learn to focus on the next big thing.
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What People Say About Wendy

“Wendy is tuned in to the frequency we all need to be on.”
Parker K.
Graduated Division 1 Athlete
“Wendy’s authenticity and insight is palpable. Our connection to her was quick and natural. Her words feel like a beacon of light in the sometimes murky waters of life and parenting. Thank you for sharing your gifts with the world, Wendy!”
Carrie K.
Mother of two Division 1 Athletes
“As the daughter of a former California Secretary of State, to where she currently resides along her journey, Wendy has acquired the necessary attributes to effectively and compassionately influence and inspire.”
Johnny & Lisa Lopez
Parents of four
Finance & Real Estate Entrepreneurs

Convert potential to performance.

Almost everyone can get better at something through hard work. But when it comes to top-level athletes, hard work is just a given. It takes a whole series of mental and physical emotional skills to transform raw potential into consistently high performance. The tougher the competition, the more of a mental game is being played.

Connect to the joy of the sport and discover your “why”.

It’s not just about the numbers. It’s not just about the competition. Truly great performers have figured out a way to “play” and have fun with the whole idea of the sport. These individuals learn to connect with people in a way that inspires them and others. They share with and learn from one another. They are able to create an approach to all the hard work that brings them joy.

Send a message from a new source – you may have been teaching
them these things, but sometimes teenagers need a different messenger.

Do you remember back in school how well you connected with some teachers and not so well with others? It’s the same with your junior athlete. No matter how correct the message is, sometimes it can fall on deaf ears. Sometimes the message has trouble getting through because of who is bringing the message. This is not news. It's the way the world works, and it’s no different for your athlete.

Create a healthy transition from high school to college.

It’s a challenge for everyone, let alone students who shoulder the extra pressure of athletic performance. Going from a high school level of competition and community to college can be jolting and stressful. Grades can be affected, and athletic performance can stall or regress. Helping your student make this transition healthy while knowing what to expect can be indispensable. An athlete with a routine and a deeper sense of self is going to make the transition from high school to collegiate level athletics with greater ease.
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10 Ways to Find Optimism in Challenging Times

Whether you’re navigating personal challenges or a global pandemic (or both), we all have moments in our life when fear seems to take hold.

This free PDF gives you 10 proven tools and techniques you can use to keep the fear at bay and, instead, teach your brain to look at life through the lens of optimism.
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